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I think she's a lesbian

Aunty Ngozi please help me.

I met a girl a sometimes back through a mutual friend who hooked us up. Since then we have been to watch a movie together and I have taken her out several times and I’ve made my intentions known.

She is a really lovely lady who is my exact spec but the only problem is that she keeps turning me down without given me a valid excuse.

I later got frustrated and confronted her to tell me what is wrong with me and she said it is her not me. I asked her to explain what this means but she declined.

Her friend that introduced us said I should continue to take her out and show her a good time and that in time she would start to open up to me.

I asked her friend if she knows of any other guy on her case, maybe that is the reason she is hesitating but she said she has never had a boyfriend.

I later confronted her again and insisted that she gives me an answer whether yes or no and she said the same time that it is her, not me. This time I challenged her that since she hasn’t had a boyfriend before maybe she’s afraid of sex but she told me she is not a virgin.

Now I am beginning to suspect that she’s a lesbian and that is why she is just keeping me around to fulfil those things that a man can do for her like shower her with gifts while she is secretly keeping her lesbian lover.

Please advice me on what to do and whether to proceed or not.

Thank you ma.


My reply

Dear Abiodun,

Wow! She keeps turning you down? She must be a lesbian! And she said its not you its her? That is exactly what lesbian say to men chasing them. And the biggest clue for me is that you have been taking her to the cinema and taking her out for meals and she still hasn’t fallen for you. If that’s not a lesbian thing to do, call me witch.

In fact, I suspect that her friend who hooked you up with her is her lesbian lover. Gbam!

Well, there’s nothing left for you to do than to leave her alone to her lesbian ways and find yourself a confirmed non-lesbian girlfriend. I will help you with this: To be sure the next girl you are hooked up with is not a lesbian, insist that the person hooking you up with her is a guy who has slept with her before. That way you are sure the girl you are going on a blind date with is not gay.

Good luck with all that.

Aunty Ngozi



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