Dear Freda,

Why does your name remind me of one old Nollywood horror movie like that? Anyways, moving right on...

This your issue sounds familiar. I’m sure I’ve helped someone with this same ithing before. I can’t remember what I advised them to do, but for you I have just one question: Na love you go chop?

I don’t know why girls of nowadays are always talking love love love. As if love can buy you re-charge card, fix you human hair, buy you Christian Louboutin pumps. As if you can deposit love in the bank or use it to buy Dangote cement shares.

Look, you have no business finding out which one loves you more, and besides, you can never really know who loves you; you can only know who you love, so stop wasting time trying to test their love for you or whatever.

What you want to do is to test your own love for them. Let me explain:

You see, you must always be with a man for the right reason. In many ways, the right reason is love, abi? Well, it doesn’t stop there.

You must love a man for the right reasons. What are the right reasons? you might ask. Well, the right reasons to love a man include his ability to feed you, clothe you, house you, buy car for you, service the car he bought for you, etc.

But love is not enough. There must also be trust. He must trust you enough to change all his properties to your name and his name, have joint account with you, etc, etc.

So, my dear, what you really want to find out is which of your two boyfriends is worth your love. Put a value on your comfort and find out which of the two can afford you. Simples.

Aunty Ngozi