My husband went through my phone
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Aunty Ngozi, please help me now!
I am in a serious mess. In fact, I am in deep shit. Aunty, it is my husband, he has my phone and he has gone though it and he has read everything! Everything! In fact, right now I am in my friend's house sending you this distress message. I'm afraid to go back home. Help me! Please help me. How can I explain all the messages from Alhaji?
Distressed wife |
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My reply
Dear Distressed wife,
Calm down. It is not the end of the world. You should not have left your home. For what? You have fall my hand, but there is redemption yet.
I take it you did not give him your phone to go through, so that is your angle; he obviously has trust issues. You need to play on this. You need to make him feel there is something wrong with him, not you.
But before you cam pull this off you have to erase everything on your phone. Call your network provider and declare your phone stolen. They will ask you for your IMEI number. Don't panic. If you don't have it they can use your phone number; you just have to prove the phone is yours by telling them the last few number you called. Don's ask me how I know.
Tell them it's your business phone and you have all your bank details and highly sensitive data stored on it. Oyinbo people have really tried; your phone will be remotely wiped clean. Once this is done, wait for him to call you and just begin to cry before you even say anything, If he asks you why you are crying, tell him it's because you know he wants to divorce you and that is why he's making up all sorts of stories about finding incriminating evidence on your phone. This is important: Tell him (while still crying) that the phone hasn't even been working well and you haven't been able to send, talk less of receive, any messages on it.
When he goes through the phone again, as he must, and he finds the evidence gone, he would start to doubt his own sanity. You must help him with this doubt. Start to make up stories like, "That is the same way you beat me up that night and in the morning you said you didn't remember doing any such thing."
When he is asking you what you are talking about, tell him, in a deeply wounded voice, "I love you, but I'm afraid of you now because of the way you've been behaving. I think we should be apart for now while you seek help."
Keep this up until you can tell that he is truly genuinely doubting his own sanity, then wait till he begs you not to tell anyone what he's going through before you agree to 'give him another chance if he promises to seek help.'
I really don't like helping cheating wives like this, but I hate men who go through girl's phones more than I hate the girls who cheat on them.
Carry out my instructions to the letter and you'll have your man and your marriage back. But, you too, stop being so unprofessional: always delete sexting messages from your phone once you've read them, and never ever let your husband or anyone to go through your phone. Dont fall my hand again, abeg. Good night.
Aunty Ngozi
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