Dear Concerned Student,

Thank you for your letter and for your kind words; may our good God almighty also bless you with the kind of job you that you would be happy with and always love to do, as he has blessed me. Amen.

On to your question: Me too I don’t know o! It’s just like when Salewa my friend got married. Before, she used to be a bubbly chick that I could call up at any time for party or club and she wouldn’t fall my hand. But suddenly, after she married that he goat, Ahmed, she started forming ‘married woman’, as if Mrs is an award.

But that said, I really don’t think it’s simply a married woman thing; I suspect it goes much deeper than that. You asked me to give it a thought and I did. You know what I think? I think some women, after they get married, become so disillusioned with life up to the point that they subconsciously decide to start taking out their frustration on other people – innocent bystanders, just like you.

You see, your observation that this behaviour is most common amongst newly wedded women got me thinking. I think it’s because they are still in the process of adjusting to the harsh reality that they can no longer seduce a fine stranger that they meet and shag him before he can start liking their friend that has said she likes him.

Long and short, you need to allow these women; they are lashing out at you because they can no longer have you; it’s their way of saying ‘Fuck you if I can’t fuck you!’

I hope this has helped you and I hope you will give a married woman a wide berth next time you come across one.

Yours,

Aunty Ngozi